You need to use something like usbasp programer with 10 to 6 pin converter, with disabled jumper to vcc voltage pin, connect it to ISPI pins on vems board, power up vems from ec36 (dont foget to use 2 ground wires connected together, one is sensor ground, other is common groud), install drivers for usbasp, install avrdude, and then id CMD prompt just enter "avrdude -v -c usbasp -p m128 -U lock:w:0x3c:m" and it will lock fuse 3c. now you can power down everything and update vems to 1.1.94 bootloader update firmware, and then use, bootloader upgrade tool from vemstune, and then you will probably get stuck same as me, as no one responds to emails etc
I have sent emails before with questions how to upgrade, and nothing.
note: if you use stk200 cable or something else then you just replace "-c usbasp" to "-c stk200"