When asking for technical help at the very least let us know the version of firmware you are running.Cliff's Calibration (Mapping) Guide is a MUST READ: http://www.vemssupport.com/forum/index.php/topic,97.0.html
Yes, you have really serious problems with triggering!It can be noise issues, it can be something with starter gear.Regarding caps. I used 4.7uF 63V polymer ones. It is not so strict. Ford do the same for ages.