as i fixed my wastegate, i ended up with 120-8-12 as my previous were 130-5-14.
i did something in between the 2 above methods.
i tuned the open loop on the DC that is closer to my target. Then dialed the target where i wanted, and finally used my previous PID setting to see if i get an overshoot. Actually if rpm vs time is correct on my logs, then it was a bit late, so i reduced the P and D a bit and i think it is a bit better.
I dont know what vems uses to read the rpm, but in action i think it is 'seeing' different things than what it is logging.
on my last run today, the high boost was coming in my rpm dash at 3500 hitting hard, but ok i wont trust that, but the digital vems was also before 4000rpm. My laptop decided to die off battery at the time, so no log, but i bet on the log, it will be coming later than 4000rpm.
I wont bother with it for a while. Car drives nice! Im happy!