1) It can be difficult - if there is an external igniter unit in the original car then the coil will be passive, you'd need to have the schematics for the system that the coil was originally designed for, or sit and be patient while measuring all of the resistances across the pins.
2) Yes, although you can have more pins on a coil and still have a passive
3) You would use the stepper to drive active coils if they don't fire with 5V logic outputs, connecting a 0.33Ohm coil to a stepper output will draw ~36.4A (12 / 0.33) the stepper can drive only 1A so you would get to replace a blown stepper driver chip.