i think i have found my problem. In my search to make the car run economically, i have been using EGO correction from 28C CLT. Today, i used the same settings with ego OFF and the car went fine, drove around a little bit and as soon as i put the EGO on, it happened again. CLT was about 40C at the time. So i put now EGO starting from 45C, and i reduced the cold added amount to 118 from 125 which i had upped a bit without any improvement.
when i think about it, the fuel cut like reaction was coming more slightly after i had pressed the accel pedal and the enrichment was finished 0.5sec after. SO hopefully this should work now. ON EGO OFF till 45C i was noticing that with the accel enrichment being that high, lamda is reacing 0.7x ish and idle is around 0.94. so it should be ok for cold status now. But i reduced the enrichment values so that it doesnt become overly rich when EGO is off.